Sitting in a doctor’s office freaking out when the radio plays the song I listened to on repeat while drinking and crying during the worst breakup I’ve ever had.
Instantly the pain comes rushing back bc music does that and my heart is breaking all over again.
So it finally ends and I let out a sigh of relief when the next song comes on…
Only to go back to nearly crying again because it’s the favorite song of someone I loved who died.
Easily two of the most horrible moments of my life shoved in my face back to back.
Next time could you please just drop a piano on my head? Thanks, you bitch.
If there should be any rule in life, it’s don’t talk to/date someone who just got out of a relationship. Because I promise you, 95% of the time they’re using you for emotional or physical comfort. Even if they don’t use you on purpose. Also, don’t be that asshole that leads someone on to distract yourself and then leave em when you realize they still leave you empty. People don’t fix other people. You can only heal yourself.
Not trying to start nothin’
But, I’m pretty thankful this “rule” or advice or w/e wasn’t given to my husband before we started dating.
I was in a very serious relationship and ended it because straight up I wasn’t IN love. I didn’t mourn like society says I should mourn. With time. Yes, it was a traumatic end and yes I hated hurting my ex and yes, I was sad but a few days after the huge blow out that led to the end I went out for drinks with a guy. Not to date or screw or use him in any way. Just because sometimes meeting a guy at a bar can be because you WANT to not because you need it.
8 months later we were married and we have a 2 year old and our nearing our 3 year wedding anniversary.
I got over my ex quickly because I am incredibly self aware and soon after I found a perfectly suitable partner who I fell madly in love with and if he had listened to something that said “avoid her, she’s rebounding your ass” our love would never have grown to this degree and turned into a tiny toddler and taken us to these extremely exciting adventures we are experiencing.
Basically, don’t listen to every warning sometimes taking chances on people is what life WANTS you to do and it pays the F off.